Trying to get your ex to return your calls or pick up the phone might seem almost impossible since your breakup. You have tried leaving messages and calling when you know that they're free but you feel sure that your ex is avoiding you. What can you do to get your ex to call you back or pick up the phone?
If you are hoping to get back together with your ex, your desire to talk things through and resolve the problems in your relationship has probably become an obsession. Your desire to hear your ex or to find out how they're doing can turn into an impulsive urge that simply will not be silenced. You might want to say that you're sorry or to talk with your ex about all the reasons why you feel that you can make your relationship work but your ex won't answer your calls. There's a very good chance that your ex knows why you're calling and, at the moment, they don't want to discuss getting back together. There are things you can do to move your relationship in that direction, though. There are things that you can do to get your ex to talk with you again.
If you have been calling your ex a lot and leaving messages, you need to stop for a period of time. Your ex may be annoyed with all the phone calls and if you have been trying to convince your ex to talk about the breakup then they are going to avoid your calls completely. Nobody likes to talk about unpleasant things and although your ex made the decision to end your relationship, this is difficult for them also.
The amount of time that you're going to have to wait before trying to contact your ex will depend upon how hard you have been pushing them to get back together. If you have been calling every day or multiple times a day, you might have to wait a week or two before you attempt to get in touch with your ex again.
Secondly, your life during this period where you're not going to contact your ex should be shrouded in mystery. If you ex has been checking up on you through mutual friends or if your ex is friends with your family, you don't want them to find out anything about you through them. You want your ex to get their information directly from the source. You want your ex to begin to wonder what happened to you and what's going on in your life. Don't let anyone know that you're sad about your breakup and avoid posting things to your social networking profiles that might make your ex think that you're still in love with them.
You can further enhance this effect by and create more mystery by using social networking. Avoid the temptation to post things that remind you of your ex such as photos or songs. Instead, post things that tell the world that you're happy and optimistic. Funny things that make you laugh are best. You want everyone to think that you are doing well and that life has returned to normal. If you are tempted to post things that are going to send a message to your ex then it's better that you post nothing to your page. Sad posts or sentimental posts will only tell your ex that you're still thinking about them and you want them to wonder what's going on with you lately, remember?
Before you try to call your ex again, you should try a simple text message after you have avoided contacting them for a period of time. These days, sending text messages before you talk to your ex on the phone has become a kind of rule. When a couple is arguing or when there are bad feelings between two people, the impersonal nature of text messaging allows you to say what you need to say without having to worry about your tone of voice. This will work to your benefit.
Keep it simple and avoid the temptation to tell your ex that you love them or that you want to get back together. Don't even say that you're sorry. All you wish to accomplish is to get back in touch with your ex. This is just the first step towards a phone conversation where you can hear their voice. A simple message asking how they're doing or simply saying hello is all that is required. The response that you get will determine what you say next. You should try to match the frequency and tone of the conversation and avoid allowing this first step towards getting back together to turn into an argument. Be positive and optimistic and remember that it's best to keep things short and sweet. You can get your ex to call you by telling them that you have something funny to tell them but you don't have the patience to type it all. Avoid pressuring your ex and let them take the next step when they feel comfortable.
The pain that you're in right now and the frustration that you're feeling these days is real and justified. You have lost your best friend. You are missing that key person in your life that you shared everything with. Your desire to hear their voice and the soothing comfort that a simple phone call might provide could be offset by hearing an angry voice on the other end of the line if you force the issue too much.
These tips should help you to get back in touch with your ex and begin the process of winning their heart back. You should be able to, step by step, rebuild your relationship from here on out if you're patient with your ex. There will be days when the waiting will feel unbearable and moments when you're going to be tempted to try to call your ex again. Avoid that temptation and remember what you have learned here about how to get your ex to talk to you again.
If you are hoping to get back together with your ex, your desire to talk things through and resolve the problems in your relationship has probably become an obsession. Your desire to hear your ex or to find out how they're doing can turn into an impulsive urge that simply will not be silenced. You might want to say that you're sorry or to talk with your ex about all the reasons why you feel that you can make your relationship work but your ex won't answer your calls. There's a very good chance that your ex knows why you're calling and, at the moment, they don't want to discuss getting back together. There are things you can do to move your relationship in that direction, though. There are things that you can do to get your ex to talk with you again.
If you have been calling your ex a lot and leaving messages, you need to stop for a period of time. Your ex may be annoyed with all the phone calls and if you have been trying to convince your ex to talk about the breakup then they are going to avoid your calls completely. Nobody likes to talk about unpleasant things and although your ex made the decision to end your relationship, this is difficult for them also.
The amount of time that you're going to have to wait before trying to contact your ex will depend upon how hard you have been pushing them to get back together. If you have been calling every day or multiple times a day, you might have to wait a week or two before you attempt to get in touch with your ex again.
Secondly, your life during this period where you're not going to contact your ex should be shrouded in mystery. If you ex has been checking up on you through mutual friends or if your ex is friends with your family, you don't want them to find out anything about you through them. You want your ex to get their information directly from the source. You want your ex to begin to wonder what happened to you and what's going on in your life. Don't let anyone know that you're sad about your breakup and avoid posting things to your social networking profiles that might make your ex think that you're still in love with them.
You can further enhance this effect by and create more mystery by using social networking. Avoid the temptation to post things that remind you of your ex such as photos or songs. Instead, post things that tell the world that you're happy and optimistic. Funny things that make you laugh are best. You want everyone to think that you are doing well and that life has returned to normal. If you are tempted to post things that are going to send a message to your ex then it's better that you post nothing to your page. Sad posts or sentimental posts will only tell your ex that you're still thinking about them and you want them to wonder what's going on with you lately, remember?
Before you try to call your ex again, you should try a simple text message after you have avoided contacting them for a period of time. These days, sending text messages before you talk to your ex on the phone has become a kind of rule. When a couple is arguing or when there are bad feelings between two people, the impersonal nature of text messaging allows you to say what you need to say without having to worry about your tone of voice. This will work to your benefit.
Keep it simple and avoid the temptation to tell your ex that you love them or that you want to get back together. Don't even say that you're sorry. All you wish to accomplish is to get back in touch with your ex. This is just the first step towards a phone conversation where you can hear their voice. A simple message asking how they're doing or simply saying hello is all that is required. The response that you get will determine what you say next. You should try to match the frequency and tone of the conversation and avoid allowing this first step towards getting back together to turn into an argument. Be positive and optimistic and remember that it's best to keep things short and sweet. You can get your ex to call you by telling them that you have something funny to tell them but you don't have the patience to type it all. Avoid pressuring your ex and let them take the next step when they feel comfortable.
The pain that you're in right now and the frustration that you're feeling these days is real and justified. You have lost your best friend. You are missing that key person in your life that you shared everything with. Your desire to hear their voice and the soothing comfort that a simple phone call might provide could be offset by hearing an angry voice on the other end of the line if you force the issue too much.
These tips should help you to get back in touch with your ex and begin the process of winning their heart back. You should be able to, step by step, rebuild your relationship from here on out if you're patient with your ex. There will be days when the waiting will feel unbearable and moments when you're going to be tempted to try to call your ex again. Avoid that temptation and remember what you have learned here about how to get your ex to talk to you again.
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