So you've met the perfect girl. She's everything that you've ever dreamed of and she's come out of nowhere. She's beautiful and clever and a lot of fun to be around.
You think that you really might have found someone that you want to have a quality relationship with. Now comes the tricky part. How do you ensure that she falls for you as hard as you've fallen for her? How do you keep from making the mistakes that other guys make?
A man who sees a woman as somehow different than the other women around him will cause him to start to become attracted to her. If he is accustomed to women who chase him or flirt with him and he find a woman that doesn't flirt with him then she will feel different. Inversely, if he is used to women that ignore him or think of him as only smart or funny and he finds a woman that sees his other attributes then he will become attracted to her. She will appear different to him.
How do other women treat the man that you're interested in? Do they go to him to have their computer's fixed? Try to see some other redeeming qualities that he posesses. Do other women laugh at his jokes? See beyond his sense of humor and discover what lies underneath that facade of comedy. Be different than the other girls and you will show him that you're different.
A man becomes connected to a woman when he feels good when he's in her presence. Simply being around her and being able to talk with her and be accepted causes a man to seek out that one particular woman. A woman that listens and supports a man emotionally will be more attractive than even the most attractive woman in the room. Being able to be himself without reservation makes him feel safe. Having the ability to be open with someone without worrying that he will be judged is very attractive. Being able to let his guard down and be himself is important to any man even if he doesn't understand this feeling or emotion.
How can you make him feel at ease around you? Ask him some prying questions. Avoid the typical questions like about his hobbies or his work or what he likes to do to relax. Think about more probing questions and allow this line of questioning to lead you to who he really is. Comment about the things he talks about by agreeing that something that he tells you must have been difficult or fun depending upon the topic. Let him open up to you and express his feelings and emotions without judgement and you will find that he will feel drawn to you and want to be around you to talk and be himself.
If you feel jealousy or insecurity creeping into your mind, remind yourself that you don't own her. Even if you were to be dating her and you both were in love, you don't own her. Even if you have caught her in a lie, be the better man and don't call her out on it. There's nothing worse than thinking that you've caught someone in a lie only to find out that you have your intel wrong. If she's spending time with you then it's for a reason. If she's chatting you up then it's for a reason. Be happy about it and if you have a hard time curbing these emotions then you need to remove yourself from the situation for a few moment while you get your head screwed back on. She will sense jealousy and insecurity also.
Life is too short and when you find someone that you think is awesome and it seems like she's into you also, relish the moment. Live in that moment and try not to be your own worst enemy. Too many times guys put too much pressure on themselves and they wind up shooting themselves in the foot for their trouble. Be happy, be cool and enjoy getting to know her. If you're sincere and a decent guy she'll fall for you every bit as much as you've fallen for her.
You think that you really might have found someone that you want to have a quality relationship with. Now comes the tricky part. How do you ensure that she falls for you as hard as you've fallen for her? How do you keep from making the mistakes that other guys make?
A man who sees a woman as somehow different than the other women around him will cause him to start to become attracted to her. If he is accustomed to women who chase him or flirt with him and he find a woman that doesn't flirt with him then she will feel different. Inversely, if he is used to women that ignore him or think of him as only smart or funny and he finds a woman that sees his other attributes then he will become attracted to her. She will appear different to him.
How do other women treat the man that you're interested in? Do they go to him to have their computer's fixed? Try to see some other redeeming qualities that he posesses. Do other women laugh at his jokes? See beyond his sense of humor and discover what lies underneath that facade of comedy. Be different than the other girls and you will show him that you're different.
A man becomes connected to a woman when he feels good when he's in her presence. Simply being around her and being able to talk with her and be accepted causes a man to seek out that one particular woman. A woman that listens and supports a man emotionally will be more attractive than even the most attractive woman in the room. Being able to be himself without reservation makes him feel safe. Having the ability to be open with someone without worrying that he will be judged is very attractive. Being able to let his guard down and be himself is important to any man even if he doesn't understand this feeling or emotion.
How can you make him feel at ease around you? Ask him some prying questions. Avoid the typical questions like about his hobbies or his work or what he likes to do to relax. Think about more probing questions and allow this line of questioning to lead you to who he really is. Comment about the things he talks about by agreeing that something that he tells you must have been difficult or fun depending upon the topic. Let him open up to you and express his feelings and emotions without judgement and you will find that he will feel drawn to you and want to be around you to talk and be himself.
If you feel jealousy or insecurity creeping into your mind, remind yourself that you don't own her. Even if you were to be dating her and you both were in love, you don't own her. Even if you have caught her in a lie, be the better man and don't call her out on it. There's nothing worse than thinking that you've caught someone in a lie only to find out that you have your intel wrong. If she's spending time with you then it's for a reason. If she's chatting you up then it's for a reason. Be happy about it and if you have a hard time curbing these emotions then you need to remove yourself from the situation for a few moment while you get your head screwed back on. She will sense jealousy and insecurity also.
Life is too short and when you find someone that you think is awesome and it seems like she's into you also, relish the moment. Live in that moment and try not to be your own worst enemy. Too many times guys put too much pressure on themselves and they wind up shooting themselves in the foot for their trouble. Be happy, be cool and enjoy getting to know her. If you're sincere and a decent guy she'll fall for you every bit as much as you've fallen for her.
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