Have you found a really cute guy that you're interested in? Do you wish that he would make the first move? Do you want to get his attention but you don't want to be too pushy? How can you get the attention of the man you're interested in especially if he has a lot of women that are interested in him?
Other than being blunt and confronting him with your feelings, creating a connection with him and allowing him to fall in love with you is probably the way to go. Asking him out or taking that first step yourself probably wouldn't be a good move. Even though women are liberated these days and it might work out for you, you stand a better chance of catching that man by letting him be the man. Let him chase you and let him think that it was his idea that the two of you spend more time together.
Throughout the entire dating process including the attraction phase, it's a good idea to be yourself. Even if you know a few things about him, his likes and dislikes, it's important that you be yourself. It can be embarrassing if he finds out that you were deceitful or if you lied about something later on in the relationship. Even mundane or insignificant things will make a guy wonder. After all, if you are able to be deceitful about something small then there's a good chance that you can lie about something big at a later date. Even if you know that he is a big sports nut and he loves football, avoid the temptation to try to make him believe that you're a football fan too. A guy can tell and you're not fooling anyone.
As far as those delicate questions that you might want to plead the fifth amendment on, honesty is always the best policy. If you come from a poor family or if you've been divorced or if you didn't complete your university education, be honest about it or plead the fifth. It can be equally as embarrassing for him if he accidentally uncovers something unpleasant and he makes you feel uncomfortable. Your strength is in how you handle it. You are still a good person and worthy of being loved in spite of your past. Everybody makes mistakes and all of us have a skeleton or two in our closet. Be proud of yourself and love yourself and he will fall in love with you too. It's called self-confidence.
As you get to know each other and you start communicating, listen more and try to speak less. It doesn't matter if you're talking face to face, over the phone or exchanging text messages. Avoid the trap of being the one doing all the talking. While many men might be used to such one sided conversations, you want to appear different. In addition, you want to get to know him and bond with him. If you can ask him some good questions that lead to answers that require further details you can drill down into his life. If you are persistent enough and you allow a man the opportunity to talk, he will eventually feel safe enough with you to share his hopes, dreams and innermost thoughts. He will feel close to you and bond with you in a way that will make him feel like he has always known you.
Try to be as happy and optimistic as possible. Smile, laugh and be happy. While everyone has troubles in their life, avoid sounding negative at all cost. Women who are bubbly and vivacious are often the ones that you will see with many men chasing after them. There is a reason behind this. Men like to be around happy women. They're fun and nobody enjoys spending time with someone that is depressed or who complains about life. Even if you have something to complain about, laughing it off or being optimistic about the fact that things will make him look at you as strong and different from other women.
Flirting never goes out of style although it is quickly becoming a lost art. There's nothing wrong with flirting. It's not demeaning or fake. Flirting isn't going to backfire on you and it doesn't make you a weak woman. Effective flirting will be appreciated and he will get the message no matter how poorly you think you flirt. So, toss your hair every once in a while. Wink at him, touch his arm when you're talking and bat those eyelashes at him as you peer up at him from behind a lock of your hair. Flirting still works and it is probably the most powerful non-verbal form of communication that you have at your disposal if you are trying to attract that special guys.
Attracting a guy might be easy but keeping his attention is where the real challenge begins. The methods here will surely make him stand up and notice you but it's up to you to figure out if he's the one for you. Men are pretty simple and if you follow some of the advice here you should have any man eating out of your hand in no time. Practice these techniques on waiters, the checkout guy at the grocery store or any willing red blooded male and you will soon become proficient at getting any man's attention. Use these powers for good and not bad and good luck attracting the man of your dreams.
Other than being blunt and confronting him with your feelings, creating a connection with him and allowing him to fall in love with you is probably the way to go. Asking him out or taking that first step yourself probably wouldn't be a good move. Even though women are liberated these days and it might work out for you, you stand a better chance of catching that man by letting him be the man. Let him chase you and let him think that it was his idea that the two of you spend more time together.
Throughout the entire dating process including the attraction phase, it's a good idea to be yourself. Even if you know a few things about him, his likes and dislikes, it's important that you be yourself. It can be embarrassing if he finds out that you were deceitful or if you lied about something later on in the relationship. Even mundane or insignificant things will make a guy wonder. After all, if you are able to be deceitful about something small then there's a good chance that you can lie about something big at a later date. Even if you know that he is a big sports nut and he loves football, avoid the temptation to try to make him believe that you're a football fan too. A guy can tell and you're not fooling anyone.
As far as those delicate questions that you might want to plead the fifth amendment on, honesty is always the best policy. If you come from a poor family or if you've been divorced or if you didn't complete your university education, be honest about it or plead the fifth. It can be equally as embarrassing for him if he accidentally uncovers something unpleasant and he makes you feel uncomfortable. Your strength is in how you handle it. You are still a good person and worthy of being loved in spite of your past. Everybody makes mistakes and all of us have a skeleton or two in our closet. Be proud of yourself and love yourself and he will fall in love with you too. It's called self-confidence.
As you get to know each other and you start communicating, listen more and try to speak less. It doesn't matter if you're talking face to face, over the phone or exchanging text messages. Avoid the trap of being the one doing all the talking. While many men might be used to such one sided conversations, you want to appear different. In addition, you want to get to know him and bond with him. If you can ask him some good questions that lead to answers that require further details you can drill down into his life. If you are persistent enough and you allow a man the opportunity to talk, he will eventually feel safe enough with you to share his hopes, dreams and innermost thoughts. He will feel close to you and bond with you in a way that will make him feel like he has always known you.
Try to be as happy and optimistic as possible. Smile, laugh and be happy. While everyone has troubles in their life, avoid sounding negative at all cost. Women who are bubbly and vivacious are often the ones that you will see with many men chasing after them. There is a reason behind this. Men like to be around happy women. They're fun and nobody enjoys spending time with someone that is depressed or who complains about life. Even if you have something to complain about, laughing it off or being optimistic about the fact that things will make him look at you as strong and different from other women.
Flirting never goes out of style although it is quickly becoming a lost art. There's nothing wrong with flirting. It's not demeaning or fake. Flirting isn't going to backfire on you and it doesn't make you a weak woman. Effective flirting will be appreciated and he will get the message no matter how poorly you think you flirt. So, toss your hair every once in a while. Wink at him, touch his arm when you're talking and bat those eyelashes at him as you peer up at him from behind a lock of your hair. Flirting still works and it is probably the most powerful non-verbal form of communication that you have at your disposal if you are trying to attract that special guys.
Attracting a guy might be easy but keeping his attention is where the real challenge begins. The methods here will surely make him stand up and notice you but it's up to you to figure out if he's the one for you. Men are pretty simple and if you follow some of the advice here you should have any man eating out of your hand in no time. Practice these techniques on waiters, the checkout guy at the grocery store or any willing red blooded male and you will soon become proficient at getting any man's attention. Use these powers for good and not bad and good luck attracting the man of your dreams.
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