Making the decision to get your ex back can be a complicated one. Family and friends might want to advise you to move on and find someone new. Counselors might even give you the same advise. Of course, your heart is telling you to do something completely different.
Your decision to wait things out or to try to get back together with your ex is your decision to make. You don't have to have the approval of your friends and family or even listen to anyone that might tell you that you're making a mistake. Often by following our heart, our dreams become reality and the dream of being with the one that you love isn't such an outlandish dream, is it?
You don't want to offend the people around you and you worry that they will become upset with you. They all care about you very much. They don't want you to be upset and hurt anymore. It could be that they see things only from one perspective and that is that your ex is causing you pain. They want you to be happy again and often finding someone else to date or spend time with is a temporary solution to a deeper problem which is that you are still in love with your ex.
It might be easier on you if you do decide to try to win your ex back that you keep it to yourself. While your family and friends might want you to feel better, chances are that they aren't going to be very supportive when you're having a difficult day. You might feel lonely keeping this dream to yourself but often well-meaning friends can hurt us without knowing it when you tell them that you miss your ex. They might try to remind you again that the best thing that you can do is to forget about your ex and try to destroy your dream instead of supporting you.
Keeping this secret desire alive and well in your heart is the key. Treat it like a precious gift that you don't want anyone to destroy. Think about it logically. Your ex was in love with you not so long ago. Feelings like that don't die. There are thousands of instances of people getting back together even when you might look at the situation and think that there was no chance. You might even know of couples that overcame huge obstacles and even appeared to hate each other who were reunited. Is your situation so impossible in comparison to these other couples?
Allow yourself a little time every day to think about your ex falling in love with you again. Dream about what it will be like to have your ex in your life again in the exact way that you want. Dream up little vignettes of your life with your ex. Imagine what it will be like to hear your ex tell you that they love. When will that first kiss occur? Can you feel the warmth of their embrace as you close your eyes? Dream of what you want things to be like and don't allow doubt to creep in and ruin these thoughts. This is your time to create your future in your mind.
This is your life and these are your dreams. Let yourself go and create the kind of happy life that you want each and every night. You deserve to be happy and you deserve to be loved by who you desire in the exact way that you dream of. You have a choice in life. You can be happy or you can be miserable. Your dreams and thoughts dictate what you get in life. Let your thoughts, dreams and your attitude be positive and things will begin to change. This means every aspect of your life including who you love and how they love you. Getting back together isn't impossible and it all begins in your heart and your dreams. Don't let anyone destroy either of them.
Your decision to wait things out or to try to get back together with your ex is your decision to make. You don't have to have the approval of your friends and family or even listen to anyone that might tell you that you're making a mistake. Often by following our heart, our dreams become reality and the dream of being with the one that you love isn't such an outlandish dream, is it?
You don't want to offend the people around you and you worry that they will become upset with you. They all care about you very much. They don't want you to be upset and hurt anymore. It could be that they see things only from one perspective and that is that your ex is causing you pain. They want you to be happy again and often finding someone else to date or spend time with is a temporary solution to a deeper problem which is that you are still in love with your ex.
It might be easier on you if you do decide to try to win your ex back that you keep it to yourself. While your family and friends might want you to feel better, chances are that they aren't going to be very supportive when you're having a difficult day. You might feel lonely keeping this dream to yourself but often well-meaning friends can hurt us without knowing it when you tell them that you miss your ex. They might try to remind you again that the best thing that you can do is to forget about your ex and try to destroy your dream instead of supporting you.
Keeping this secret desire alive and well in your heart is the key. Treat it like a precious gift that you don't want anyone to destroy. Think about it logically. Your ex was in love with you not so long ago. Feelings like that don't die. There are thousands of instances of people getting back together even when you might look at the situation and think that there was no chance. You might even know of couples that overcame huge obstacles and even appeared to hate each other who were reunited. Is your situation so impossible in comparison to these other couples?
Allow yourself a little time every day to think about your ex falling in love with you again. Dream about what it will be like to have your ex in your life again in the exact way that you want. Dream up little vignettes of your life with your ex. Imagine what it will be like to hear your ex tell you that they love. When will that first kiss occur? Can you feel the warmth of their embrace as you close your eyes? Dream of what you want things to be like and don't allow doubt to creep in and ruin these thoughts. This is your time to create your future in your mind.
This is your life and these are your dreams. Let yourself go and create the kind of happy life that you want each and every night. You deserve to be happy and you deserve to be loved by who you desire in the exact way that you dream of. You have a choice in life. You can be happy or you can be miserable. Your dreams and thoughts dictate what you get in life. Let your thoughts, dreams and your attitude be positive and things will begin to change. This means every aspect of your life including who you love and how they love you. Getting back together isn't impossible and it all begins in your heart and your dreams. Don't let anyone destroy either of them.
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