Being patient when trying to get back together with your girlfriend is difficult. There's no question about it. You worry that someone else is going to come along and scoop her up, if that isn't the case already. You worry that she's going to forget about you. You worry that she's going to get used to living her life without you. But even more, you just worry that the window of opportunity is closing so you're frantic to find a solution to your problem and get her back as soon as possible.
There's no sense in pretending that you're doing well. There's no sense in lying to yourself that you're not worried. All of these emotions weigh heavy on your mind as you worry about your relationship. You grow suspicious and angry about the situation that you're in. Did some other guy turn her away from you? Is there someone else that is filling her head with lies? All of these emotions are making you desperate for an answer and being desperate can cause you to make mistakes when trying to get the woman that you love back.
You try to think logically about your breakup and what you should do to get her back. You followed your gut. You tried talking with her and telling her that you're sorry and that things are going to change. You remembered every word that she said when she broke up with you and agreed to change every little thing that you could think of that was bothering her. You would be a changed man and you would be the best boyfriend in the world because of the love that you have for her.
After you discover that trying to talk things through or apologizing didn't get you what you want, you might try something just a little bit different. You might come up with the bright idea that if you were the perfect boyfriend that she would see how much you love her and she would want to come back to you. You could buy her the perfect gift that would touch her heart. You would tell her that you love her and she would fall into your loving arms. If that didn't work then you would beg her to take you back. You would play off of her sense of sympathy and pour your heart out to her while hoping that she would see how important she was to you. Surely, your tears would mean something to her and she would at least try giving your relationship a second chance.
As you probably already know, tactics such as these don't work. These are all methods that every guy tries after a breakup and they only make matters worse. Your instinct might be telling you that you're being original or clever but these are only the acts of a desperate man who is afraid of losing something very important in his life. You are coming from a place of fear and this fear will make you do things that you will regret later. You will remember these acts and shake your head in disbelief one day. Right now you need to relax, get your mind right and understand what will actually make her want to come back to you.
Women are a little bit different than men when it comes to emotions such as love. You need to understand that she has made a big decision. She has probably told all the people close to her that your relationship is over. In order for her to get back together with you she is going to have to feel some emotions powerful enough to overcome that decision. She will need to feel such passion that she doesn't care what her friends and family think. It's your job to understand her and what she needs to feel in order to love you that way again.
Understanding your girlfriend's emotions and basing your actions upon making her feel the emotions necessary for her to fall in love with you again is the route that you should take. While this might sound simple or easy, it's your emotional state that is getting in your way. You actually care too much at the moment. You are so fearful of losing her for good that you aren't being yourself. If you could step back and not care so much then you would realize that getting her back isn't really all that difficult. If you can, try not to care so much. Try not to worry so much and you will begin to understand your ex-girlfriend and how she is feeling about you right now.
There's no sense in pretending that you're doing well. There's no sense in lying to yourself that you're not worried. All of these emotions weigh heavy on your mind as you worry about your relationship. You grow suspicious and angry about the situation that you're in. Did some other guy turn her away from you? Is there someone else that is filling her head with lies? All of these emotions are making you desperate for an answer and being desperate can cause you to make mistakes when trying to get the woman that you love back.
You try to think logically about your breakup and what you should do to get her back. You followed your gut. You tried talking with her and telling her that you're sorry and that things are going to change. You remembered every word that she said when she broke up with you and agreed to change every little thing that you could think of that was bothering her. You would be a changed man and you would be the best boyfriend in the world because of the love that you have for her.
After you discover that trying to talk things through or apologizing didn't get you what you want, you might try something just a little bit different. You might come up with the bright idea that if you were the perfect boyfriend that she would see how much you love her and she would want to come back to you. You could buy her the perfect gift that would touch her heart. You would tell her that you love her and she would fall into your loving arms. If that didn't work then you would beg her to take you back. You would play off of her sense of sympathy and pour your heart out to her while hoping that she would see how important she was to you. Surely, your tears would mean something to her and she would at least try giving your relationship a second chance.
As you probably already know, tactics such as these don't work. These are all methods that every guy tries after a breakup and they only make matters worse. Your instinct might be telling you that you're being original or clever but these are only the acts of a desperate man who is afraid of losing something very important in his life. You are coming from a place of fear and this fear will make you do things that you will regret later. You will remember these acts and shake your head in disbelief one day. Right now you need to relax, get your mind right and understand what will actually make her want to come back to you.
Women are a little bit different than men when it comes to emotions such as love. You need to understand that she has made a big decision. She has probably told all the people close to her that your relationship is over. In order for her to get back together with you she is going to have to feel some emotions powerful enough to overcome that decision. She will need to feel such passion that she doesn't care what her friends and family think. It's your job to understand her and what she needs to feel in order to love you that way again.
Understanding your girlfriend's emotions and basing your actions upon making her feel the emotions necessary for her to fall in love with you again is the route that you should take. While this might sound simple or easy, it's your emotional state that is getting in your way. You actually care too much at the moment. You are so fearful of losing her for good that you aren't being yourself. If you could step back and not care so much then you would realize that getting her back isn't really all that difficult. If you can, try not to care so much. Try not to worry so much and you will begin to understand your ex-girlfriend and how she is feeling about you right now.
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