vendredi 27 décembre 2013

Understanding Effective Communication Skills For Couples

By Harriett Crosby


The demanding nature of the current working class lifestyle has put a strain on most love relationships. May are the times when one of the parties to a marriage lacks the energy to give appropriate attention to their other half. Today, may families have engaged in programs aimed at bettering effective communication skills for couples in a bid to save their dying marriages.

At its simplest, communication represents a flow of views, concerns and ideas between two parties without discriminating the source. After voicing your idea, you must humbly await the response from your other half before expressing the next thing on your mind. Even in the event that your partner is wrong, you must lie low and let them tell you why they choose to differ from your point of view.

Even if you are giving a listening ear, never push your real emotions under the carpet in a bid to please your partner. Every person will naturally have a differing opinion about any topic being discussed and this fact must be respected at all times. If a costly mistake has been made, do not waste time trying to blame each other, suggest what you as an individual could have done to avoid it.

Misunderstanding a spouse is the surest recipe for a heated argument. To get their point, you must have good listening skills and take time to mentally digest what they said. A good listener will give unwavering eye contact and combine it with body language such as nodding the head or repeating their words for clarity. It is not advisable to infer their meaning based on some experience you had in the past as it comes off as a rude gesture.

If you find yourselves yelling and shouting when talking, try calming down or abandoning the talk to resume it at some other time. Married life can be very stressful and a lot of personal sacrifice is necessary to avoid ripping it from its very foundation. This is because these contracts attempt to bring together two strangers with different background to live and experience life as a team.

Escapades at work should not spill over into the household, whether your boss gave you a hard time or fired you from a prestigious post. Your home should be a place of calm for two people to rest their wary bones at the end of a busy day. It is possible for your bad moods to rub off on another person if you cannot suppress them.

Monotony is one sure way of getting the other half fed up with your habits. Whether you are constantly whining or mumbling inaudible obscenities, they will definitely reach their perseverance limit. Recall that seventy five percent of what you say comes across in your body language, not the words you choose. Insults ad rebuke will not leave you feeling better, or will they have a positive effect o another.

Silence when you are hurting inside will only result in short lived peace. Dedicate a stipulated length of time every day to abandon all else and reach out to a spouse. The above are merely part of the concepts spelt out to people attending sessions on effective communication skills for couples.




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