mercredi 26 mars 2014

How To Deal With Anger After She Cheated On You

By Jeraldine Hemongala


Relationships are difficult under the best of circumstances. But if there has been a serious breach such as an affair, it is even more difficult. The wronged party experiences a vast array of negative emotions, including depression, hurt and anger. But it's important to move past these emotions, especially the anger. Allowing it to fester will have a negative impact on all other relationships, including your friends, family, and coworkers. It is even harmful to your health.

There are constructive ways to deal with the anger you feel after being cheated on. Keep in mind that anger is often really "hurt" in disguise. The two emotions are very similar and often anger is a way to mask the hurt you harbor inside. So address the pain and you will also be addressing the anger.

Here are some suggestions on how to handle your anger after being cheated on.

So how do you fix it? How do you get rid of the anger after being cheated on? The following are a few pieces of advice you will want to follow:

1. You need to find someone to talk to, plain and simple. It could be a friend, it could be a counselor, or it could be someone from a support group. Maybe you could even speak to your local bartender. If you are a man, you might not feel comfortable talking about your feelings, but at some point you need to release the anger and talk through your problems. You will feel much better, and you can trust us when we say it will not make you less of a man.

By talking to someone, you will be able to clear your head and put your issues into a perspective that you can understand. The people you talk to can give you advice, but that doesn't mean you need to follow all of it. If you listen, you will see the advice you need to take, and apply it to your life.

3. While you are navigating these rough waters it's also important to take care of yourself physically. Eating right and getting the proper exercise will release endorphines that combat depression, as well as elevate your self-esteem and confidence.

4. An act of infidelity is bound to do a number on your feelings of self worth, but it does NOT have to be the end. If the marital relationship matters to you - and to her - together you can move beyond the crisis and have a full and happy life together. However, it takes communication and a mutual commitment in order to do this.

Take the lesson and forget what happened. It is easier said than done, but in time things will get easier. Take measures to forget it one day at a time. Distract yourself by being busy and just move on with your life.

4. Learn your lessons, and in time, things will become easier. There are many ways to distract yourself, and eventually, move on with your life.

Yes, she cheated, and it's terrible, but it's not the end of the world. The more you prepare yourself to move on, the easier it will be. You will be happier, and your future will be brighter. Perhaps you will build an even better marriage in the future! Then again, moving on entirely might be on the menu.




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