Wanting to get back together with your ex girlfriend or your wife is a simple issue of mind over matter. You will find that your attitude has more to do with your success in your relationship with the woman of your dreams than anything else. While a woman might hear your words fine, she will judge you by your actions. You goal should be to show her with your actions that you are strong, fun to be around and the best man for her. You are confident and you need to instill a feeling of security in her when she is with you.
Being rejected by the woman you love can be stressful and demoralizing. If you have fallen apart in front of your girlfriend or wife because you are upset or emotionally wounded by her departure then you are normal. This doesn't mean that these emotional display aren't helping you. These emotions are probably linked to the true reason why she decided to leave you though. She might not even realize it but there is a very good chance that it is a lack of respect on her part that caused her to change how she thinks of you or views you as a man. Surely, she gave you many excuses for why she was leaving but these weren't the true reason. The root cause for why a woman usually leaves a relationship is usually how she feels about that man. It should be your goal to change how she thinks and feels about you. Avoid the temptation to cry, beg, plead or even ask about the possibility of getting back together at all cost. As a matter of fact, avoid all contact with your ex until you have your life back together and your attitude has changed.
You might cherish hearing her voice or seeing her face but there comes a time when the best thing that you can do is to walk away. Having an attitude that you are unwilling to tolerate bad behavior and ending a conversation or relationship when you are not receiving respect is important to a man. This means that if you do see her or talk with her and she is anything other than kind and respectful towards you, your response will be to walk away. This should be your attitude figuratively and literally. If she raises her voice, makes a face that tells you that she doesn't respect you or if she acts disrespectful in any way, you turn away from her and walk away after telling her that you're not going to put up with this type of behavior. You might worry that she won't care or that she will become more angry but you will find that the opposite is true. She might act like she doesn't care but instinctively, she will begin to gain some respect for you. She very well might begin to pursue you although she probably won't understand why and she might never apologize but the end result is our goal. That is, having your girlfriend or wife begin to respect you and admire you again.
Being cool and calm in the face of adversity and reigning in your emotions is important. Resist the temptation to argue with her or show any sign that you're still upset about the break up. Your new attitude must be positive and optimistic. Your new life is filled with possibilities. You are happy and looking forward to what life has in store for you. You are in the process of rebuilding your life. You have a direction and you have goals and dreams for what you wish to accomplish in life. You might even feel happy about the freedom that this break up has given you. No matter what, you are happy because women find men that are happy and optimistic about life very attractive. If you find yourself confronted with negative emotions or you become upset over something, remember that you must be happy at all costs. If you feel completely overwhelmed, find a place where you can be alone for five minutes to regain your composure. Tell yourself that things will change and that your life is getting better and better all the time. Remind yourself that you must appear happy and in control at all times. Men are capable of such strength and you are a real man.
Control in a relationship or which partner wears the pants is always a struggle. Women often test a man and if you look back on events in your relationship you will agree that this is true. Now that your girlfriend or wife has left you, she may still attempt to test you or tell you what to do. Take control back and passively teach her that you are the man and that you'll make the decisions. She really doesn't want to make the decisions in the relationship. No woman does. It is all a test to see how strong you are as a man. The next time she attempts to exert her authority in your life by stating her opinion or actually telling you what you should do, make your own decision. For instance, let's say that you agree to meet and she suggests a time and place. Instead of agreeing, change the time and place to one more convenient for you. Even if you have to create an excuse, taking control in this small matter will help her to see that things have changed in your life. You're not trying to be difficult. Her suggestion simply does not suit you and you are making a decision.
Your self-confidence has probably taken a beating since she left but this doesn't mean that it is going to take months or years to rebuild your confidence. For you, as a man, your self-confidence is apparent in how you carry yourself. A man's self-confidence can be seen without words and it is shown in your posture, the kind of words you use and your body language, in general. Your facial expression shows that you are cheerful and without worry. You stand tall without slouching and you fear nothing. If you struggle with your confidence and self-esteem, work on it by telling yourself that you're strong. You can accomplish anything that you set your mind to. This includes getting the woman that you love back in your life. The next time you see your ex girlfriend or wife you want her to feel that there is something different about you. You want to exude confidence and an air that you don't have a trouble in the world. Even if she is evil towards you, it doesn't bother you. Even is she is with another man, it doesn't matter to you because you know that eventually she is going to fall for you and come crawling back to you with tears in her eyes.
Being in love isn't easy. Often genuinely nice guys make the mistake of thinking that by treating a woman well and doing everything that she asks, she will fall in love with us. We want to show our love by putting her first. We care for her more than we do our own body. For us, this equals true love. For a woman, instinctively, this is a sign of weakness. Putting yourself first and being strong is the only way to regain the respect and love that the woman of your dreams had for you. Avoid the temptation to go back to groveling or begging her for another chance. Push forward and understand that you have nothing to lose by standing up for yourself in a passive-aggressive manner. You don't have to be mean. You don't have to argue with her. You simply have to be the man that she loves and respects. Be happy and full of optimism and things will begin to change. Her feelings for you will begin to change. She will wonder what is going on with you. She will become curious and soon you will find that she has a renewed respect and love for you. You are worthy of being loved and respected and you will get your ex girlfriend or wife back.
Being rejected by the woman you love can be stressful and demoralizing. If you have fallen apart in front of your girlfriend or wife because you are upset or emotionally wounded by her departure then you are normal. This doesn't mean that these emotional display aren't helping you. These emotions are probably linked to the true reason why she decided to leave you though. She might not even realize it but there is a very good chance that it is a lack of respect on her part that caused her to change how she thinks of you or views you as a man. Surely, she gave you many excuses for why she was leaving but these weren't the true reason. The root cause for why a woman usually leaves a relationship is usually how she feels about that man. It should be your goal to change how she thinks and feels about you. Avoid the temptation to cry, beg, plead or even ask about the possibility of getting back together at all cost. As a matter of fact, avoid all contact with your ex until you have your life back together and your attitude has changed.
You might cherish hearing her voice or seeing her face but there comes a time when the best thing that you can do is to walk away. Having an attitude that you are unwilling to tolerate bad behavior and ending a conversation or relationship when you are not receiving respect is important to a man. This means that if you do see her or talk with her and she is anything other than kind and respectful towards you, your response will be to walk away. This should be your attitude figuratively and literally. If she raises her voice, makes a face that tells you that she doesn't respect you or if she acts disrespectful in any way, you turn away from her and walk away after telling her that you're not going to put up with this type of behavior. You might worry that she won't care or that she will become more angry but you will find that the opposite is true. She might act like she doesn't care but instinctively, she will begin to gain some respect for you. She very well might begin to pursue you although she probably won't understand why and she might never apologize but the end result is our goal. That is, having your girlfriend or wife begin to respect you and admire you again.
Being cool and calm in the face of adversity and reigning in your emotions is important. Resist the temptation to argue with her or show any sign that you're still upset about the break up. Your new attitude must be positive and optimistic. Your new life is filled with possibilities. You are happy and looking forward to what life has in store for you. You are in the process of rebuilding your life. You have a direction and you have goals and dreams for what you wish to accomplish in life. You might even feel happy about the freedom that this break up has given you. No matter what, you are happy because women find men that are happy and optimistic about life very attractive. If you find yourself confronted with negative emotions or you become upset over something, remember that you must be happy at all costs. If you feel completely overwhelmed, find a place where you can be alone for five minutes to regain your composure. Tell yourself that things will change and that your life is getting better and better all the time. Remind yourself that you must appear happy and in control at all times. Men are capable of such strength and you are a real man.
Control in a relationship or which partner wears the pants is always a struggle. Women often test a man and if you look back on events in your relationship you will agree that this is true. Now that your girlfriend or wife has left you, she may still attempt to test you or tell you what to do. Take control back and passively teach her that you are the man and that you'll make the decisions. She really doesn't want to make the decisions in the relationship. No woman does. It is all a test to see how strong you are as a man. The next time she attempts to exert her authority in your life by stating her opinion or actually telling you what you should do, make your own decision. For instance, let's say that you agree to meet and she suggests a time and place. Instead of agreeing, change the time and place to one more convenient for you. Even if you have to create an excuse, taking control in this small matter will help her to see that things have changed in your life. You're not trying to be difficult. Her suggestion simply does not suit you and you are making a decision.
Your self-confidence has probably taken a beating since she left but this doesn't mean that it is going to take months or years to rebuild your confidence. For you, as a man, your self-confidence is apparent in how you carry yourself. A man's self-confidence can be seen without words and it is shown in your posture, the kind of words you use and your body language, in general. Your facial expression shows that you are cheerful and without worry. You stand tall without slouching and you fear nothing. If you struggle with your confidence and self-esteem, work on it by telling yourself that you're strong. You can accomplish anything that you set your mind to. This includes getting the woman that you love back in your life. The next time you see your ex girlfriend or wife you want her to feel that there is something different about you. You want to exude confidence and an air that you don't have a trouble in the world. Even if she is evil towards you, it doesn't bother you. Even is she is with another man, it doesn't matter to you because you know that eventually she is going to fall for you and come crawling back to you with tears in her eyes.
Being in love isn't easy. Often genuinely nice guys make the mistake of thinking that by treating a woman well and doing everything that she asks, she will fall in love with us. We want to show our love by putting her first. We care for her more than we do our own body. For us, this equals true love. For a woman, instinctively, this is a sign of weakness. Putting yourself first and being strong is the only way to regain the respect and love that the woman of your dreams had for you. Avoid the temptation to go back to groveling or begging her for another chance. Push forward and understand that you have nothing to lose by standing up for yourself in a passive-aggressive manner. You don't have to be mean. You don't have to argue with her. You simply have to be the man that she loves and respects. Be happy and full of optimism and things will begin to change. Her feelings for you will begin to change. She will wonder what is going on with you. She will become curious and soon you will find that she has a renewed respect and love for you. You are worthy of being loved and respected and you will get your ex girlfriend or wife back.
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