mardi 14 août 2018

Principles To Follow When Dating Muslims

By Ann Turner


Islam provides an elaborate path to courtship and marriage for its adherents. The guide for dating Muslims applies to those meeting over the internet and those who meet one on one. The Quran provides punishment for people who violate these rules. Beyond the community punishing them, Allah will strike them severely for defiance. This punishment is worse and should be avoided by following laid principles.

A Muslim is at liberty to love anyone and even proceed to marry him or her. This is anchored in Islamic faith whereby people are encouraged to love and extend this love to all creation by Allah. The rules are only meant to protect those involved from hurting and also ensure that the society is not dysfunctional. This is why relationships, engagement, premarital contact and marriage are strictly guided.

The Quran does not restrict partners or a couple on where they should meet or who to fall in love with. These restrictions were prominent in traditional societies because people lived together. Courtship was easier because families knew the behaviors and characters of others through close monitoring. Courtships would also happen in full glare of everyone.

As people disperse and people desire to make personal decisions on marriage, online dating takes root. It is embraced because people no longer live in exclusive societies. It also gives people an opportunity meet partners from other countries or cities. This is not a reason to break any of the courtship rules. Meetings that have their genesis on the internet must also remain within the principles set in the Quran.

The principle rule of courtship is that the partners must never be found in the same room or space without a chaperon. This seclusion is deemed dangerous because it exposes the couple to temptations of sexual engagement. When you meet online, a person must not tempt you into getting into private space. This will compromise personal integrity, leaving you hurt and destroying your courtship.

Chaperon was responsible for supervising the courtship process in the traditional society. Where this is impossible, group activities are encouraged. Gather friends, age mates or even join families during gatherings. You are not even allowed to exchange a kiss until you get married. If the family learns that you have engaged in any of the prohibited activities, you will be sanctioned. The engagement might be broken for that reason.

The society is laying a lot of emphasis on halal dating for Muslims. This is a situation where you keep contact with the partner you are interested in. Contact can take the form of internet, phone call or even physical gathering. Family and friends are allowed to introduce two partners. Through continued engagement, you make a decision whether to continue with courtship or not. You will then sign a binding contract called Nikah which is as strong as a marriage certificate.

Do not mistake courtship in Islam to be devoid of love and emotions. There are enough opportunities for the couple to make up their mind about each other. They are only restricted from private interactions before marriage to protect them from being hurt as well as protect the society from broken marriages. Whether you meet online or in real life, you must adhere to the principle of separation till marriage.




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