Going through a breakup can be emotionally devastating. Being rejected by someone that probably promised to love you forever strikes to the core of your being. Your ego and self-worth can be damaged so much that you might feel like you will never recover. You feel as if the only thing that will cure you of this malady would be for your ex to come back to you. If the love that you once shared was restored then your heart would be instantly healed. You search for a way to bring your ex back but the dream is dying. You feel like your ex very well might be gone forever. What can you do to ease the pain and eventually attract the love of your life back to you again?
Being happy might seem impossible at times but it is the golden key to changing how your ex thinks and feels about you. If you are serious about making your ex fall in love with you again then happiness is a necessary trait that you must embrace. Pushing the pain aside and being happy doesn't mean that you don't still love your ex. No matter what your instincts might be telling you, your ex will not forget about you or be offended if you aren't an emotional wreck the next time they see you. You are not giving up on the dream of getting back together with the love of your life. You are not betraying that love by living again.
It's understandable that you might fear letting go of the pain from your breakup. The truth is that it is not serving you in any way. You are not benefiting in any manner from the sadness and depression and your ex will not be impressed if they see you being emotional. Human psychology shows us that people are attracted to others who are happy, full of life and emotionally strong. We all avoid people who are sad, depressed and emotional. If you want to become attractive to your ex again, you must change your attitude and become more positive, optimistic and happy about life.
You might be sitting there thinking that it would be wonderful to be happy again but you're not sure of what to do. Begin by thinking about what will make you happy right now. At this very moment, what can you do to make you feel better or make you smile. Do you want a cup of coffee? Do you want to take a day off from work and watch some funny movies? Perhaps there is a favorite food that you enjoy that could cheer you up or improve your mood. Cook yourself a good meal and forget about your troubles for a while. Feel happiness wash over you as you relax and understand that you deserve to be happy again. You have time on your hands. Use it wisely because there very well may come a day very soon when you don't have the luxury of this time. Get involved in a sport that you've always wanted to try like fencing or boxing. Watch some funny videos that will make you laugh or feel good about life again.
As you start to feel better about your life, begin to dream of all the things that you can now do in life. Think about what you may have wanted to do when you were together with your ex but couldn't. Now that you're single, you have the time to pursue those hobbies or goals. Maybe you wanted to start a business or learn a new language. Perhaps you always dreamed of going on a cruise. Write down your goals and dreams and begin to map out the steps necessary for you to achieve these dreams. If it's a cruise, research where you want to travel to and visualize yourself on that boat soaking up the sun. You might be surprised by how your new attitude becomes attractive to your ex as your life moves forward without them. Curiosity will get the better of them and your ex will be unable to resist the temptation to contact you and see how you're doing. They might even be a little jealous that you're not an emotional mess anymore without them. This will cause your ex to begin to feel some emotions about the breakup that they hadn't felt before and all of this is good for your future relationship together.
To take care of that power that your ex might have over your heart, you should keep your mind open to the fact that there are many other people on the face of this wonderful planet who would love to date you. There are many attractive people who are seeking someone just like you to spend time with. Go for a walk at the park, look around at your work and peruse dating websites just to open your mind to this possibility. You might not feel like dating anyone and you might not want to deal with starting over with someone new but simply seeing that you do have options will removed that desperation that you're feeling. Seeing a photo of someone that you find attractive and knowing that this possibility of spending time with someone attractive will remove that need to be with your ex and replace it with a simple desire which is much more attractive to your ex.
Spending time alone can be very difficult at first. Once you begin making your life more interesting and you start treating yourself well you will find that life isn't so bad. You will create new routines and you will find your own happiness that isn't dependent upon your ex. Your life will become more dynamic and interesting to your ex also and this is when your ex will probably pop back into your life. It is a strange phenomenon but one that you will find is true. As soon as you don't need your ex in your life anymore, that is when they will creep back in and want to spend time with you. Be strong, love yourself and be happy starting today. Live the kind of life that is attractive to anyone and you will find that very soon things will begin to change with your ex for the better.
Being happy might seem impossible at times but it is the golden key to changing how your ex thinks and feels about you. If you are serious about making your ex fall in love with you again then happiness is a necessary trait that you must embrace. Pushing the pain aside and being happy doesn't mean that you don't still love your ex. No matter what your instincts might be telling you, your ex will not forget about you or be offended if you aren't an emotional wreck the next time they see you. You are not giving up on the dream of getting back together with the love of your life. You are not betraying that love by living again.
It's understandable that you might fear letting go of the pain from your breakup. The truth is that it is not serving you in any way. You are not benefiting in any manner from the sadness and depression and your ex will not be impressed if they see you being emotional. Human psychology shows us that people are attracted to others who are happy, full of life and emotionally strong. We all avoid people who are sad, depressed and emotional. If you want to become attractive to your ex again, you must change your attitude and become more positive, optimistic and happy about life.
You might be sitting there thinking that it would be wonderful to be happy again but you're not sure of what to do. Begin by thinking about what will make you happy right now. At this very moment, what can you do to make you feel better or make you smile. Do you want a cup of coffee? Do you want to take a day off from work and watch some funny movies? Perhaps there is a favorite food that you enjoy that could cheer you up or improve your mood. Cook yourself a good meal and forget about your troubles for a while. Feel happiness wash over you as you relax and understand that you deserve to be happy again. You have time on your hands. Use it wisely because there very well may come a day very soon when you don't have the luxury of this time. Get involved in a sport that you've always wanted to try like fencing or boxing. Watch some funny videos that will make you laugh or feel good about life again.
As you start to feel better about your life, begin to dream of all the things that you can now do in life. Think about what you may have wanted to do when you were together with your ex but couldn't. Now that you're single, you have the time to pursue those hobbies or goals. Maybe you wanted to start a business or learn a new language. Perhaps you always dreamed of going on a cruise. Write down your goals and dreams and begin to map out the steps necessary for you to achieve these dreams. If it's a cruise, research where you want to travel to and visualize yourself on that boat soaking up the sun. You might be surprised by how your new attitude becomes attractive to your ex as your life moves forward without them. Curiosity will get the better of them and your ex will be unable to resist the temptation to contact you and see how you're doing. They might even be a little jealous that you're not an emotional mess anymore without them. This will cause your ex to begin to feel some emotions about the breakup that they hadn't felt before and all of this is good for your future relationship together.
To take care of that power that your ex might have over your heart, you should keep your mind open to the fact that there are many other people on the face of this wonderful planet who would love to date you. There are many attractive people who are seeking someone just like you to spend time with. Go for a walk at the park, look around at your work and peruse dating websites just to open your mind to this possibility. You might not feel like dating anyone and you might not want to deal with starting over with someone new but simply seeing that you do have options will removed that desperation that you're feeling. Seeing a photo of someone that you find attractive and knowing that this possibility of spending time with someone attractive will remove that need to be with your ex and replace it with a simple desire which is much more attractive to your ex.
Spending time alone can be very difficult at first. Once you begin making your life more interesting and you start treating yourself well you will find that life isn't so bad. You will create new routines and you will find your own happiness that isn't dependent upon your ex. Your life will become more dynamic and interesting to your ex also and this is when your ex will probably pop back into your life. It is a strange phenomenon but one that you will find is true. As soon as you don't need your ex in your life anymore, that is when they will creep back in and want to spend time with you. Be strong, love yourself and be happy starting today. Live the kind of life that is attractive to anyone and you will find that very soon things will begin to change with your ex for the better.
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